Mass murder and torture are OK. Saying the word "fag" and making videos with raunchy jokes are wrong.
Navy Captain Owen Honors was relieved of his command because he made some raunchy videos 4-5 years ago that made derogatory references to gays and women. Meanwhile torture continues at Bagram, Guantanamo Bay, and secret prisons around the world without anyone being relieved of their command. I'm sure the victims of the US military's crimes in Iraq and Afghanistan will take comfort in Honors' punishment.